Forced Minimalism: Hurricane Irma

I write this as Hurricane Irma approaches Florida.  The entire state seems to be in peril due to the sheer size of the storm.  We watch as it wobbles from east to west and try to calculate what that means for us, but it seems that most, if not all of Florida will feel some impact of the storm.

There is not much hurricane preparation we can do here in our apartment—we were sent a notice that plywood is not allowed, as our building has a brick façade.  We brought in patio furniture and our grill, stocked up on bottled water and shelf stable food, and got some emergency cash out of the ATM.

In addition, I bagged up items like electronics, my leather shoes and handbags, and my autograph collection—things that would be severely damaged if not completely ruined if they got wet.  This exercise gave me a glimpse into the items I truly value.  Obviously, not every item I own needs to be protected in this way and I only have a limited supply of time, energy and garbage bags.  I have to pick and choose what to protect. This experience has helped put things into perspective and helped me further minimize, even though I was pretty sure I had done a fairly thorough job over the the last 6 months or so.

One thing I’ve had a hard time letting go of is a pair of rain boots I bought in college. They just struck as me as one of those things that is extremely useful when needed, but simply not needed that often.  In college, I regularly found myself wading across a flooded campus on my way to class, as an afternoon shower would often cause puddles of standing water. They certainly served their purpose for those few years.

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However, I still have them nearly 10 years later and my husband, upon seeing them said “Oh, I forgot you still had those.  I’ve never seen you wear them, but you get them out once a year or so and contemplate if you should keep them.”  After hearing that, I had to get rid of them for sure.  If my husband of nearly 4 years had never seen me wear them and I did not need them IN THE AFTERMATH OF A HURRICANE, clearly, they simply do not add value to my life anymore and someone would get much more use out of them if I were to donate them.


Weekly Update: Week 23


This week, I got my suits dry cleaned.  I also bought some fiber supplements, paid this month’s massage membership fee and filled up my gas tank in preparation for the storm. We are in the path of Hurricane Irma, so we bought bottled water, bread, etc.  We already had a good stock of protein bars and powder, nutrigrain bars and other snacks–my lunches most days as I move from one job to another without a lunch break–so there wasn’t much preparation needed.

Beginning to plan our L.A. vacation in greater detail, we purchased our tickets to see a show at The Comedy Store, one of the greatest comedy clubs in the world, and at Largo, another great comedy club, when we are in Los Angeles. If you’ve paid attention at all to this blog you will know I am a huge fan of comedy. In addition to attending the convention, a main purpose of this vacation is to visit these comedy clubs.

While we didn’t spend any money, we also requested tickets for a television taping for a late night show during our Los Angeles trip.  The tickets are free, but we won’t get confirmation until closer to the date whether we will actually be given tickets or not.

We also bought tickets to a local comedy show coming up in a few weeks. We get free tickets quite often, but we actually had to purchase our tickets to this one.  We didn’t eat out or really spend any other money this week.  I was really impressed as I sat down to write this.


1.  Pearl Necklace.  Pearls are a classy, conservative choice for accessorizing.  When I saw this beautiful necklace on sale on Rue La La, I was very tempted to purchase it.


Total amount I saved that I would have spent this week: $100

Running Total: $3,347

What I Have Gained From Minimalism

One thing that has been a constant in my minimalist journey is that I’ll make a huge change and wish I’d taken “before” pictures.  (I have had this frustrating experience so many times that, when we decided to revamp the living room last weekend, I finally remembered!) So here are some of the “after” pictures…

Minimalism can impact almost every area of our lives and the benefits can be innumerable. I’ve talked before about the benefits, but I am discovering new ones everyday. I have gotten rid of so much excess stuff in my life since starting my minimalist journey and the year of buying nothing–about 7 carloads worth!–that it’s easy to concentrate on what I’ve lost instead of what I’ve gained:

1.  A clean refrigerator: Removing all the magnets from the refrigerator (except for one with the local police department’s non emergency phone number) allows me to more easily clean the surface.  I got rid of all but a few that were most important to me, including:

Empty fridge

magnets from a trip to England as a teenager

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and some that my college roommate, a talented artist, designed. Check out her portfolio. Browsing her website to plug it here, I learned that you can buy a shirt she designed from Shirt Woot.


In order to prominently display these, rather than having them be a few in a sea of dirty magnets on a dirty refrigerator, I had to get rid of at least 10 magnets, including a few I had convinced myself had sentimental significance: 1) a magnet personalized with my name from a school field trip to the zoo when I was in elementary school that was starting to yellow with age, 2) a magnet from a family trip to the Blue Ridge Mountains that said “I’d rather be hiking the Appalachian Trail.”  (Note: this was around the time Gov. Mark Sanford disappeared with his mistress and staffers claimed he was “hiking the Appalachian Trail.” As a close follower of politics, this struck me as amusing and I decided to buy it as a souvenir.)

2.  A clean coffee table:  Before, this coffee table had 2 coffee table books, a candy dish, 4 picture frames, a box of tissues and a candle on it.  Keeping the coffee table clear of everything (save a coaster or two occasionally) allows me to keep the surface polished easily and maintain the quality of the wood.  I donated everything that was previously on top of the table and keep a box of tissues in the storage section in the table.  It can be used as a surface to play board games (of which there are several stored in the storage sections of this coffee table) with friends.

Empty table

3. Art on the wall:  I was able to hang my photography on the wall. These are photos I took myself (one even won first place in a photography contest in high school!) that my Mom had framed and matted beautifully. They had been hidden away in a storage bin since I moved in–We had never bothered to hang them. They are now prominently displayed, as they should be.

Pics on wall

4.  Tablecloth from my Grandmother:  This small tablecloth with the Spanish dancers was brought back for me by my Grandmother as a souvenir from when she went to Spain.  It fits beautifully on an end table or night stand.  It was on my nightstand for a brief period, but after I moved, it was stored away with the other tablecloths (the ones for the dinner table) and I never bothered to put it anywhere.  This now has a proud spot in the living room on the end table.

Spanish tablecloth

5.  Handbags stored properly:  I have made room so that now my prized handbags can be properly stored and protected in dust bags. I did not have the room before minimizing to properly store these bags, and that could result in damage to the leather. Gotta keep them safe and protected.

My closet 3

6. A tranquil work space:  I showed a closeup of my desk and the crystals and statues I keep on it when I talked about my collections. Here’s a better view of my work area. While this may still seem cluttered to some, consider that before minimizing, I could not fit my computer on my desk; it was kept in the keyboard tray.  I had so many trinkets and things on the desktop that it could not even be used for its primary purpose: to house my computer. I really wish I had a “before” picture to go with this tranquil “after”:

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Long story short: by minimizing the excess, I have room to display what is truly important to me without being distracted by anything extraneous. Everything that surrounds me has importance to me. For example, on that end table that is covered by the tabelcloth my Grandmother bought me from Spain, there is a frame with photos of our family, including our niece the day she was born. Next to that is the ceramic claddagh that topped the wedding cake at our minimalist wedding. Everything else that was on that end table–candles and other stuff I don’t even remember–has been removed to allow these important items a prominent spot in my home and in my life.


If you haven’t picked up on the recurring theme, it is that minimizing has allowed me to more prominently display and better care for the things that are truly most important to me by getting rid of everything that is not.


Weekly Update: Week 22

I made an eBay sale! It’s been awhile since I’ve made a sale, but I recently added quite a few more things. It wasn’t a particularly expensive item, but I’m glad for the extra room in my closet and in my life.  I’ve been listing new things on eBay like crazy and I currently have 21 active listings.


After the two lightbulbs blew out previously, another lightbulb blew, this time in the bedroom. I couldn’t make this up. I know what you’re thinking, because it’s what I thought: “There has to be a reasonable explanation. At some point, all of those lightbulbs must have been replaced around the same time period, which would explain why they’re all blowing at the same time.” Nope. Those lightbulbs were all replaced at drastically different times in the past.  I was not the only one who experienced this phenomenon–a Facebook friend of mine had a similar occurrence:


All I can say is that Mercury is still in retrograde and many people believe this has an impact on life on Earth, particularly with anything electronic or mechanical. I’m not sure if I really believe this or not, but the “coincidences” keep stacking up.  In addition to the lightbulbs, my car started making a strange clacking noise in the dashboard this week.

We started the weekend by meeting up with an old friend of my husband’s, who is visiting from Oregon, and we had dinner with him and his son on Friday night. The friend was nice enough to treat us for dinner. On Saturday night, we tried out a new restaurant we had gotten a Groupon for.

We found out from some friends about a bulk store in our area.  I’m passionate about the environment and do what I can (bring reusable bags to the grocery store, bring my own travel mug to Starbucks, use glass water bottles, etc.) but I wasn’t sure what else I could do.  I have been reading some zero waste blogs with interest and several had mentioned bulk (packaging-free) stores, but assumed there was no bulk store located near us.  A bulk chain called Bulk Nation has a location near us.  Customers bring their own containers (or buy some there), have them weighed before shopping and then fill their containers with the products. At checkout, customers are charged by the weight (less the weight of the containers).  They have all kinds of products like trail mixes, loose leaf teas and coffee, rice, pasta, candy, oats, flour, honey, olive oil, and (my husband’s favorite) nut butter–which you grind fresh yourself in the store.  We will probably never be a zero waste household, but we do what we can.

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Bulk store haul–we brought our own mason jars to fill

On Sunday, we finally took action about our rapidly deteriorating sofas, which had been bothering us for awhile. Last year, there was a class action lawsuit regarding the poor quality of this furniture. Unfortunately, we bought this Ashley Furniture sofa from Big Lots and not directly from an Ashley Furniture Homestore, so we were not included in the settlement. Members of this class received a “settlement” of a $25 gift card to use at Ashley Furniture Homestores, which would not have been useful to us in any event. We decided slipcovers would be the most economical solution to the problem of our peeling couches.

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And while we were at it, decided to revamp the living room with some pretty window treatments as we update the couch with slip covers.  For a few hundred dollars, we totally changed the look of our living room and extended the life of our sofa by years.

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1. Leather desk pad.  I have eyed the Saddleback leather desk set before, but couldn’t justify the $300+ pricetag and don’t need all 3 sizes.  Desk pads served a purpose in the past–Also called “blotters,” back in the day when writing was done with quills or fountain pens that could leak ink through the page, these pads kept ink off the desk. They can still serve a practical purpose–a flat surface to write on without imprinting into the desk–but most people have little use for this.  I have legal pads to use as a writing surface if need be, but I don’t find myself handwriting enough that I would have to worry about my desk.  I suppose it would be useful for the small amount of hand writing I do, but to be honest, I mostly just think it would look cool.

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2. Mulberry Bayswater.  I really like the Mulberry Bayswater for a super professional work tote. The $1,200 pricetag for a new one is well out of my price range, but an eBay find was closer to my comfort zone price wise.  This would still be the most expensive bag I own, by far. (My Satchel & Page briefcase currently holds that spot). You know as well as I do that I do not need any more handbags.

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Total amount I saved that I would have spent this week: $665

Running Total: $3,247

Minimalism and Work

Like many people in this new “gig economy,” I have several part time jobs.  I work for a company that provides hearing coverage for attorneys who are unable to attend their hearings—Primarily, this job involves mediating settlements in debt collection cases on behalf of credit card companies.  I also work part time at a law firm that mostly practices family law and business law.  In addition to practicing law, I teach yoga and I write articles for a local political website.  My jobs have helped convince me of the necessity of minimalism; In fact, if everyone was a minimalist, I would probably be out of work!  

Negotiating with defendants who are being sued to collect their debt, I hear their stories every day.  Nobody took out the loan or made the charges on their card assuming that they wouldn’t be able to pay it.  These are good people who lost their job/got sick/lost a loved one and fell behind on their bills.  Far too many Americans are a paycheck or two away from total financial ruin and I see it every day.  Being intentional with our money and spending it only on what is important allows us to provide ourselves with some breathing room—an emergency fund in case of the unimaginable.

My other job involves primarily divorces—I see every day how “stuff” can get in the way of relationships.  Not only is money the #1 cause for divorce, but I see how people who once loved one another will have nasty fights over material things.  Sometimes, the parents lose sight of what’s important and the children suffer in these divorces, as parents use the children as pawns to get back at one another.

As a yoga instructor, I see students who are in desperate need of healing.  The stress of life has left them disconnected from their body—unable to connect to their body or their breath, they experience anxiety and depression.  This mental restlessness manifests as physical restlessness and they turn to yoga for help.  Our modern lives have overwhelmed them.

One of the benefits of this combination of jobs is that my schedule can be fairly flexible.  I can simply decline offers for hearing coverage work if necessary, and I write articles about local politics from my home office, no matter the time of day.  It was not particularly difficult to get approval from all four bosses for 2 weeks off for my upcoming vacation.  This is clearly not the case for most people, as Americans take fewer vacation days than workers in most other developed countries.  While some workers are given 2 weeks paid vacation, very few use it all and even fewer take it all consecutively. One of my bosses did note that 2 weeks “is a long time” but we would “work around it,” subtly “vacation shaming” me despite the fact that I haven’t asked for a day off since I started working for them in July last year.

While the flexibility these jobs allow can be nice, it can also be stressful; not having any set hours means that all hours are my work hours.  My respective bosses do not know my schedule with my other jobs, and so they simply contact me when they need something.  It can be hectic, juggling my schedule with all of these various responsibilities.  It is my responsibility to set boundaries and not to take on more than I can do.  Even I don’t know my schedule most of the time—hearings can be assigned as little as a day or two in advance, the solo firm I work with sometimes will move my schedule around last minute.

This means I have to advocate for myself and set boundaries, since most of my jobs do not have set hours or a set location.  I have to learn to say no when I need to. It is hard to say no when you can put a direct dollar figure on it.  I know exactly how much I would have been paid for those hearings I had to decline when I took the morning off to go to the doctor.

I have to resist the temptation to be instantly available 24/7.  Often, this will be taken advantage of and taken for granted. For example, one morning, I received a text message at 4:30 in the morning from the coordinator of the place I teach yoga about setting the next month’s fitness class schedule.  (Luckily, my phone is set to do not disturb when I am asleep and did not wake me up.)  As a fitness buff, no doubt she simply sent that text when she woke up early in the morning to work out.  Mere hours later, I got a call from a second boss around 7:15am regarding a hearing coverage emergency for that morning (my phone was still on silent, so I called back 15-20 minutes later, when I saw the missed call.)

When I got out of the shower around 7:30am and saw the missed call, voicemail and text, it would be easy to get overwhelmed by all of this.  What helps me not to be overwhelmed is to 1) prioritize and 2) deal with things one at a time.  I called my boss back about the coverage emergency and, after apologizing for calling so early and thanking me for calling them back, they informed me they had already found someone else to deal with the emergency before I had called back.  I had breakfast, headed to the courthouse and texted the other boss back later that day as I was waiting around the courthouse for my hearings.  Everything is not an emergency and everything does not need an immediate response.  Even for those with only one job, everyone has multiple tasks that need to get done.  Take a deep breath, prioritize, and concentrate on one thing at a time.  Most importantly, never be afraid to set boundaries and take care of yourself.  If you don’t, who will?

Weekly Update: Week 21


On Friday night we got free tickets and went to the comedy club.  The comedian was great, and this was the only meal we ate outside the home all week.  We also made a BJ’s run and stocked up–making sure we have plenty of appealing food options at home is essential to making sure we don’t give in to the temptation to order out.

I have to confess, I finally gave in and ordered new shoes.  I noticed that one of my go-to shoes, a pair I purchased in 2013, were looking a little worse for wear, despite regularly cleaning and polishing them.  I was hoping I’d be able to hold out until the year of buying nothing was over to replace them, but they have reached the point of no return. Remember when the Daily Mail recently came after Chelsea Clinton for her “damaged shoes”?!?!?  Mine are way worse, and Chelsea wasn’t even appearing in front of a judge or anything!

Shoe scuff

This is another aspect of my life where minimalism and my corporate aspirations clash. While there is nothing functionally wrong with the shoes, I cannot go to work wearing those shoes.  My minimalist self says they’re well worn-in and comfy and, even though the stitching had come a little loose and there is a very noticeable scuff mark now, it’s not like the soles had started to separate or there was any structural damage to the shoes that would prevent me from wearing them.  The shoes could still fulfill their ultimate purpose of covering and protecting my feet.  However, it would be unprofessional and looked down upon for me to wear the shoes in such a condition to the courthouse.

shoes suck

After recently minimizing quite a few pairs of shoes I no longer wear, I have a fairly minimalist collection of shoes–3 pairs of flip flops (which is nothing, really, as where I live does not have seasons and I pretty much wear them when I’m not at work) 3 pairs of sneakers, 3 pairs of dress/work shoes, a pair of hiking boots and a pair of rain boots. (I know I should, since I don’t really use them anymore, but I just can’t persuade myself to get rid of the rain boots!) After getting rid of the aforementioned damaged pair, I am down to two pairs of dress/work, the newest of which is nearly a year old already.

Due to my wide feet and painful foot problems, it is difficult for me to buy shoes and I avoid it like the plague.  The only place I can reliably find wide width shoes is the online retailer Zappos.  (I swear I’m not getting paid to plug this or anything else!).  I ordered 3 pairs, which may seem excessive until we remember the 2 pairs I have are already pretty old already and shoes wear out much faster when you only have a few to rotate between.  I don’t know if I’ll keep all 3 pairs yet, but the cool thing about being a Zappos rewards member is 1) free 2-day or faster shipping and 2) free return shipping.  You basically bring the shoe store to your house, try them on at your leisure and return the ones you don’t like.  (They accept returns of merchandise in new condition for 365 days.)


Well, I had to give in and buy some shoes….

omg shoes

Total amount I saved that I would have spent this week: $0

Running Total: $2582


Ever since I can remember, I have been a “watch person.”  Even in elementary school, I wore those plastic Timex kids watches from Walmart.  In middle school, I graduated to a Roxy watch with a lime green, silicone strap.  I had it for a very brief period before I noticed it had disappeared from my bedroom—stolen by either my brother or one of my friends that had been visiting.

In high school, I had a Caravelle by Bulova watch that I wore every day for probably 3-5 years, until the bracelet strap started to discolor.  (Unfortunately, it didn’t occur to me at the time to simply replace the strap).  I didn’t wear watches much in college, but got back in the habit during law school.  I now own 2 Fossil watches and a Skagen watch.  I purchased my first Fossil watch, an oversized, stainless steel chronograph watch while in law school. (Chronograph means it has a built-in, mechanical stop watch).  I chose a watch with the chronograph feature, because it would be handy for law school exams, bar preparation and other timed testing situations; not to mention, as a yoga teacher, I can use the stopwatch to ensure my classes are the appropriate length without having to remember what time I started.  Long before I had heard of minimalism, mindfulness, or intentionality, I deeply considered this purchase.  At the time, the $100 watch came with a jaw-dropping 11-year warranty.

As a matter of fact, I dropped the Fossil chronograph watch off for warranty repairs yesterday, prompting this discussion of watches.  After 5 years and 2 battery replacements, the stopwatch feature is having issues resetting and other movement/mechanical issues.  These repairs will only set me back $8.50, and if they can’t fix it, they will replace it under the warranty.  Few brands offer more than a 2-year warranty, and over 5 years is almost unheard of, even for luxury brands.  One exception I am aware of is Skagen, which boasts a lifetime warranty. (Edit: this watch came with a limited lifetime warranty at the time I purchased it; according to the website, they have also lowered their warranty to the standard 2 years.)

The second watch I bought, 2 years later, was a Skagen, in large part due to the lifetime warranty.  Though I already had the Fossil watch, this Skagen watch was lightweight, flashy, and attractive, with crystals in place of the numbers and a white, leather strap.  It is appropriate for more dressy occasions.  A friend once admired this watch, grabbing my wrist to get a good look and saying, “it must be good being a lawyer.”  This speaks to the elegant look, despite the relatively budget-friendly price tag.  This was a stark reminder of my privilege.

My most recent watch purchase was earlier this year, on March 28, 2017.  (Just days before the year of buying nothing started on April 3, 2017).  It had occurred to me that, as I advanced in my career, the large Fossil chronograph watch looked too casual and the Skagen watch with its crystal markers looked too flashy for the most conservative of professional situations.  I chose to buy a second Fossil watch and was extremely disappointed to learn that, as of 2017, the warranty for Fossil watches has been changed to only 2 years.  Their exceptional warranty was what made the brand stand out for me and the reason I initially chose them.  I went through with the purchase in spite of it; a smaller, gold tone watch with roman numeral numbers.  Simple, plain, and professional.  I don’t feel bad about being a minimalist and having 3 watches, because each of them has a distinct look and I wear each of them for different types of occasions.  I wear a watch pretty much every time I leave the house, with few exceptions, and I get a fair amount of use out of all of them.


My watch collection, minus the large Fossil chronograph that is in for repairs.


For comparison to the others, this the Fossil chronograph that is being repaired

One of my constant struggles is balancing my minimalism with the need to fit in in the corporate world.  I came across this article from Corporette (a favorite blog of mine about all things relevant to women in the corporate world.)  This article about watches discusses watches as status symbols and the author ponders the merits of different luxury watch brands, including the Cartier watch she owns personally.  This article made me wonder: do people judge me for my relatively inexpensive watches?  I also thought about something I have previously talked about that I call “the cycle of more.”  When I couldn’t afford one, I desperately wanted a Fossil watch; now that I have Fossil watches, I want a Cartier.  Once I get the “low end” $3,000 Cartier, will I then want the $8,000 one, the $15,000 one, all the way up to the $100,000 one???

The article makes the point that, for someone like me who wears a watch daily, the cost per wear is miniscule, even at those prices, because a luxury watch is an investment piece that should last a lifetime.  Shouldn’t I invest in something like this while I’m still relatively young to get the most out of it?  While all of this may be true, I can’t help but think about the type of vacation I could take for $3,000, or how many massages that would buy, or how that money could be put to better use paying off my student loans (and/or my husband’s secret debt.)  I can’t say this didn’t plant the seed in my head of saving up to purchase a luxury watch like that in the future, though.

At the end of the article, she states that you don’t have to buy a $3,000-$5,000 watch to fit in, adding “if you fall in love with a $500 watch, go for it!”  Though I really love watches and own 3 of them, none of them have been mind-blowingly expensive.  The cost of all 3 of them does not add up $500, let alone $3,000-$5,000!  The small Fossil and the Skagen were each under $100 and the large Fossil was about $110 with tax back in 2012.  I never really thought of my watches as a status symbol.  There was no mention that, in some settings, a $3,000+ watch might be ostentatious.

Many of the comments echoed the thoughts that were going through my head, with multiple comments singing the praises of both Fossil and Skagen.  Several of the comments noted that they wouldn’t feel right spending that type of money on a watch until their student loans were paid off.  In particular, a commenter identifying herself as Banker took the words right out of my mouth when she said her watch is a “Silver tank watch, by Fossil, and it was a gift. The idea of spending $3-5,000 on a watch blows my mind.”  That level of conspicuous consumption, indeed, “blows my mind” as well.  In fact, my entire wedding set (engagement ring AND diamond wedding band) did not cost $3,000.  Most people will not notice the brand of the watch you’re wearing and, to be honest, the type of people who would notice if I wore a Cartier watch are probably not the type of person I would want to impress.  They’re probably not the type that would be impressed by the least expensive models, anyway.

Weekly Update: Week 20


I went to another free concert with my husband this week. This week’s concert was free due to the Ticketmaster settlement.  I was one of those lucky people who was part of the settlement and got free ticket voucher codes. A concert I actually really wanted to see finally came up in our area (well, within driving distance to a neighboring city). The myriad restrictions on using the codes had rendered them unusable up until this point so I was really excited to get to use at least one of the codes before their 2020 expiration. We spent way too much money on “premiere parking” and a $6(!!!!) lemonade. It was 80 degrees, even after the sun went down and we had been sitting in the lawn section, uncovered for hours at that point. I was hot and drinks were not allowed in the venue–Trust me, I considered bringing a bottle of water from home. I was glad I didn’t, though, as there were groups of people standing by the entrance, chugging drinks from their bag after security told them they were not allowed inside with them. I consoled myself that at least we didn’t pay for tickets, and I chose a $6 lemonade instead of a $15 cocktail. Despite being a fan of this band since before puberty, I didn’t even look at merch, which I was proud of myself for. I know I would have been too tempted to buy a shirt I would have worn once or twice.

This weekend, we prioritized relationships.  We had an impromptu Netflix-and-chill movie night at home with close friends (another married couple) and on Saturday we went to a friends’ son’s birthday party and caught up with people we haven’t seen for awhile.  We did give a physical gift, but skipped the card (kids hate those anyway…)

On Saturday, I also prioritized health and had a 90 minute massage. When I previously signed up for the membership, they gave me a coupon for $10 off an upgrade for my next massage, with upgrade options of aromatherapy, foot exfoliation, scalp massage or extended time. I chose to extend the time from 60 to 90 minutes.  This normally would have been $30, but with the coupon it was $20. I spent $20 on the additional time, plus a tip for the massage therapist.

I was informed by a mechanic friend when he heard of the recurring issues with the windows in my car that this has to do with the heat causing the rubber around the windows to stick to it, causing the window mechanism to break. This can be resolved by using a silicone spray to keep the rubber lubricated to keep it from sticking. I finally bought some from Amazon, in addition to some new windshield wipers (the heat also causes windshield wipers to wear out faster this time of year.)

Also, we replaced lightbulbs in the living room and a nightlight in the bathroom, which both happened to burn out in the last week. (Mercury is in retrograde, for those who believe in those types of things.)


Love 41 came out with limited edition rose gold leather items, including a set of rose gold leather pouches. I wanted them, but they were pricey due to their “limited edition” status and sold out fairly quickly. This made me reconsider the Koch Leather pouches I had previously talked myself out of buying. I managed to talk myself out of buying them again. I use a pouch daily to transport work essentials in my work bag. Using pouches keeps the bags organized and makes it easy to switch between bags. The pouch holds my notary stamp, a few pens, eyeglass wipes, a mini stapler, my bluetooth headset and my headphones. The $10 fabric pouch I got from an Aeropostale store closing sale about a year ago is starting to fray and the zipper is starting to stick. The cheap, plastic-y fake leather handle won’t last long, either. I can hold out on replacing it, though.

Total amount I saved that I would have spent this week: $0

Running Total: $2582

Minimalism and Mindfulness

As you may know, I am a yoga teacher in addition to being a lawyer.  While I preach mindfulness to my students, I do not always embody the mindfulness and presence I ask my students to practice.  Not even the Dalai Lama himself would claim to be mindful 100% of the time.  That’s why we call it a “practice” – it is not something we can become or a goal we can obtain.  There is no end to it; it is a constant practice.  Some days, it is easier and other days it is harder to be undistracted and mindful.  In our busy modern lives, it is almost impossible to remain mindful all of the time.  The human brain is not even made to function that way.

I have been to a few concerts recently, and it got me thinking about mindfulness and presence.  One of the concerts, an evening concert in a neighboring city, took us longer than anticipated to get to with the rush hour traffic.  I had taken a supplement that induces calm and reduces my anxiety before leaving, not realizing at that point that we would end up an hour late for the concert.  Well into the drive, I mentioned to my husband that I had taken the supplement.  He responded, “I’m not surprised.”  When I asked him why he responded that way, he pointed out that I am much calmer than I would normally be in such a situation, stating accurately that I “have anxiety when we’re going to be on time.”  It’s true: I plan to be a minimum of 5-10 minutes early for everything.  That way if traffic is bad, or I can’t find a place to park, or I have trouble finding the location, I will not be late.  I don’t remember the last time I was late for anything.  Even as the rain started to come down, HARD, I remained calm.

Somehow, without this anxiety, I was able to see the truth as we fought rush hour to get to our destination: we will get there when we get there, and there’s not much I can do at this point to get us there any faster.  We ended up being an hour late to the concert.  People who plan concerts obviously anticipate a large crowd that might take awhile to arrive, park, get through security, find their seats, get concessions and/or merch, etc.  I kid you not: we staked out a spot on the lawn and, as we sat down on our blanket, the crowd went wild as the first band took the stage and began to play.  We didn’t miss a thing.  Somehow, the rain had missed the area and the grass was dry and the weather could not have been more perfect.  As the sun set over the amphitheater and the sky turned gorgeous colors accompanied by the music, I could not have imagined a more perfect evening.

Had I spent the entire drive tense and miserable, anticipating when we would arrive at the concert, that wouldn’t have changed a thing other than me spending that time in a bad mood instead of an okay mood.  Minimalism is about recognizing what serves us and removing everything that doesn’t to better concentrate on what does.  Worrying if we were going to miss anything or if we would find parking or a spot to sit when we got there wouldn’t change a thing; it wouldn’t make parking more abundant or create a space for us to sit.  That anxiety and worry does not serve any purpose and, like anything we don’t find useful, we should let it go.

As the night went on, I sang along with the songs and watched the lead singer dance and jump and generally entertain us, as lead singers tend to do.  My mellow mood gave way to beautiful moments of total clarity and presence.  The slightly prickly feeling of grass under me, the sounds of the music and the crowd cheering, the smell of…well, I’ll let you imagine what it smelled like.  In between these mindful and present moments, I was also on my phone way more than I wanted to be.  I was taking photos and posting them on social media; checking to see if the photos had any more “likes” or comments; and texting the pictures to my parents, who don’t follow my social media postings that closely.

I wasn’t the only one on the phone more than I should have been.  At one point, the lead singer noticed a fan in the front row recording with her phone.  He motioned for her to hand him the phone, which she did, and he began to sing into it for the next two verses, taking the video of himself as if taking a selfie.  I had to point this out to my husband, who missed it because he was on his phone…

Weekly Update: Week 19


I ended up getting free tickets for a concert this week.  Friday night my hubby and I had a much-needed date night that cost nothing more than $5 to park at the concert venue. We ate dinner before we left and didn’t even get drinks from the bar!

On Saturday, we spent the day out with friends.  We went to a nearby town to shop and eat in their downtown area.  I found a local metaphysical shop and bought myself a vial of an essential oil blend (unique to the store and mixed by the store owner) and a small amazonite crystal.  (I know, I know, I have so many crystals, but it is pretty, it cost $1.50 for the small stone, which fits in the bowl with my others.)  I nearly bought a new teacup as well, but talked myself out of it long enough that the antique shop had closed when I went back.  We also had a late lunch/early dinner out.  You might consider it a year of buying nothing fail, dear readers, but the stone looks similar to the larimar I’ve been coveting without the hefty price tag.  Cut me some slack?

On Sunday, we spent time with my sister-in-law and had dinner out afterwards, as it had been a long week and we didn’t feel like cooking.  We ate every other meal at home all week besides dinner on Saturday and Sunday.  We even ate at home before going out on Friday night to the concert. I think we did pretty good, though I would rather not have eaten out 2 nights in a row.

A great thing about this experiment is that it has helped me identify my spending triggers. Emotional spending is a thing for me and I’m more likely to spend money when I am feeling strong emotions–retail therapy for strong negative emotions or reward/celebration when feeling strong positive emotions about something.  When I have extra money due to taking on extra work, it burns a hole in my pocket.  It feels like I deserve to spend it.  I’ve been learning how to resist these triggers.  My mood has been pretty low since my husband’s financial infidelity was revealed, and it is evident in my shopping behaviors.  (See how much more than normal I “would have bought” this week and last week!)

This experiment has also shown me the power of minimalism–Being with friends and family this weekend helped my low mood immeasurably.  Just goes to show what is possible when we make time for our highest priorities.  There are many other ways minimalism has improved my life as well, making more time and money for the important things and allowing me to afford unexpected expenses, like the recent car repair, without stressing.


  1. Empress watch.  Yes, this is from Rue La La.  (I should definitely get around to deleting that app.)  This is a unique watch and somewhat of a statement piece–it definitely makes people take notice.  It doesn’t look anything like my other watches and the brand seems to enjoy a good reputation.  Unlike my other watches, which require batteries, this is powered by the automatic movement of the wearer’s wrist.

New watch

2.  Tahari Black suit.  (Also Rue La La).  $100 is a good price for a decent 2-piece suit.  Black suit

3.  Tahari Navy suit.  The buttons and slits in the front of the skirt add a modern twist and adds interest to the standard navy suit.  I think I could pull this piece off.

Blue jacketBlue skirt

4.  White blouse.  A standard white blouse is a safe bet for office/professional dress.  Can be paired with pencil skirt, pants, or suit for no-brainer outfit selection.

White blouse tie

5.  Gavin DeGraw tank.  Anyone who knows me knows I am a huge fan.  His Facebook page recently announced new merch for the new tour and this tank is gorgeous.  It would probably be very flattering on me as well.

Gavin Degraw tank

6.  CD from concert.  Instead, I am going to get a few of his older albums from the local library to listen to.

7.  Ring upgrade.  To be honest, after learning of my husband’s financial infidelity last week, I have not been my best self.  Faced with the reality of the scrimping and saving we will both have to do to pay off his secret debt, my mind turned to payback and I considered some revenge debt.  While he was (unbeknownst to me) racking up significant credit card debt, my husband talked me out of an engagement ring upgrade that would have been less than 1/4 the amount of debt he was in the process of racking up.  30 months interest free financing right now as well, plus they will cover 2 payments!!!!!  Why shouldn’t I get something nice, too? We could (probably) pay it off within 30 months. Maybe a diamond tennis bracelet to go with that ring upgrade as well. Don’t mind if I do.  (I didn’t really.  Unlike him, I couldn’t do something so selfish.)

Idc interest free

Total amount I saved that I would have spent this week: $430 (not including contemplated jewelry purchases)

Running Total: $2852